Sunday, February 22, 2009

Simple Moment

He looked at me with his scrutinizing eyes
"Your facial skin is dry. Do you even put on lotion?"
I smiled and looked back into his eyes. Usually I'll get a bit irritated by such question, but not from him. I know he is genuinely concern about me.
"Hmm, you know the answer. No."
"You haven't learned how to take care of yourself"
I smiled at this simple fact. Mom crossed my mind for a second.
"Yes."

I think...

I think it is very hard to put full trust in His plan. I mean, it takes a lot of spiritual struggle to do that. We often worry about the future more than we should, especially about things that are just beyond our control. The end result, we get emo about a plethora of nonsensical things. We almost never get this logic: Some things are not good for us, even though we are crazy about them. Even if we do get it – at times – that is only after reality came crushing to the floor.

I think I don’t fully understand trust vis-à-vis other people either (just yet). Maybe I am a paranoid.

I think it is very hard to be grateful too. We always have a wish-list, but never a have-had-list. Often, we think we deserve certain things… We deserve? One day at school, I saw this young guy with fine bearing and well-dressed, walking with a wooden stick. It hit me: I don’t need a stick to walk, but I worship myself…

I think if we have no love in our hearts, we are scary beings. But we backbite each other everyday. Therefore, we don’t love our brothers and sisters. Even if we say we do, that is just lip-service.

Having said all that, I think we should realize that nobody is perfect. If we make that the basis of our relationship with people, then we will be successful.

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

The Loosing Battle

"Beautified for men is the love of things they desire: Women, Children, much of gold and silver (wealth), branded beautiful horses, cattle and well-tilled land. This is the pleasure of the present world's life, but Allah has the excellent return (Paradise)." (Surah Ali-Imran 3:141)

Thursday, February 12, 2009

The Question is to Sleep or Not to Sleep?

I somehow got lost in the middle of the web jungle and came upon this cool site: 2009 American College Ranking. By the way, I am dying at my school already, so no thanks American top schools. I find these testimonials by students from Princeton and MIT as very interesting, we can learn from them, so I would like to share them here:-

"Princeton is a lifestyle, not a school," says a junior. Perhaps you might have heard something about Princeton, a "little suburban oasis in New Jersey," proffering a storied history, a high profile academic curriculum, and stellar financial aid policies, all of which combine to provide "an experience and a network that will transform your life." People at Princeton really use the "work hard, play hard" logic. "Academic discipline is on everyone's mind," but on any given day, "there are so many interesting events being coordinated by students and the university" that everyone here is "always running from one commitment to the next, and studying in between." But students make plenty of time on weekends for fun, "often at the expense of studying or sleeping."

Massachusetts Institute of Technology, the East Coast mecca of engineering, science and mathematics, "is the ultimate place for information overload, endless possibilities and expanding your horizons." Students need to be able to manage a workload that will "definitely push [you] beyond your comfort level." A chemical engineering major elaborates: "MIT is different from many schools in that its goal is not to teach you specific facts in each subject. MIT teaches you how to think. Not about opinions, but about problem solving. Facts and memorization are useless unless you know how to approach a tough problem." At MIT, "It may seem . . . like there's no life outside problem sets and studying for exams," but "there's always time for extracurricular activities or just relaxing" for those "with good time-management skills" or the "ability to survive on a lack of sleep."

(MSN Encarta 2009 College Ranking)

By the way, I am currently reading Execution: The Discipline of Getting Things Done. I need to crap something novel about management, work ethics, and what not for my upcoming interviews.

Monday, February 9, 2009

Incredulous!


Your Brain is 73% Female, 27% Male



Your brain leans female

You think with your heart, not your head

Sweet and considerate, you are a giver

But you're tough enough not to let anyone take advantage of you!

What Gender Is Your Brain?

Okay I admit, I tend to waste my time off late. But, my brain is majority female?!?!? What does that even mean? Any doctor or neuroscientist around here? More gray matter tissues perhaps? This is discrimination at its best...

Don't believe in this survey
I think with my head, I am not sweet, and I don't really care about this whole mumbo jumbo on 'taking advantage.' Did I really answer their questions wrong?
Puzzled =S

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Some Thoughts on Education

Note: I give up on my vows... Don't ask... These are some unpublished materials I've written for quite some time.

Before I start, a brief history of John Taylor Gatto:-

He was named New York City Teacher of the Year on three occasions. He quit teaching on the OP ED page of the Wall Street Journal in 1991 while still New York State Teacher of the Year, claiming that he was no longer willing to hurt children.



Last winter break, I bought Al-Hambra Productions’ audio lecture: Educating Your Child in Modern Times, featuring Shaykh Hamza Yusuf Hanson and John Taylor Gatto. I think Shaykh Hamza has something cool to say on almost any topic, but his ideas on child education is something I would really like to hear. Simply because: 1) He himself has gone through the traditional Islamic education system. 2) His children are home-schooled.


Talking about Shaykh Hamza’s children, one of his sons almost joined RIS 7 children’s program. But the kid was too smart and well-behaved for the ‘havoc’, so he decided not to join the program (that’s what I was told). Anyway, I guess lucky for him, or not he will have to face one thousand one interview questions from me, and oh, pictures... By the way, I had ‘fun’ playing with the children, and I miss home, especially my little brother.

The process of shaping up our children is very much related to the kind of education system that we expose them to. With all due respect to teachers and those who are involved in the education system in my home country, I think our education system limits creativity, inhibits critical thinking, and does not instill enthusiasm on acquiring knowledge. Our education system is big on drilling for exam questions and how to conform to sometimes nonsensical rules. The end result: we are not critical, we are passive, we lack creativity, we study only for exams, and we don’t have a genuine passion for knowledge or reading.

As John Taylor Gatto puts it, “School is the axon of the American economy.” There are reasons as to why America is leading the world today and it is no brainer that one of them is their education system. People like Shaykh Hamza, Dr. Umar Faruq Abdullah, and others have repeatedly said that education system is the root of the backwardness of most Muslim countries today. Simply put, if we are to lead the world again, we must rethink about our education system. Having said all that, of course, Malaysia has a pretty decent education system as compared to other Muslim countries.


I would like to remind the reader that there was a time when the Muslim world was the chief inventor of some world-changing ideas on education system. Actually the whole idea of endowed college (i.e. university) started from the Muslim world, with Qarawiyyin (Fez, Morroco) and al-Azhar (Cairo, Egypt) listed as two of world’s oldest universities ever established on this planet. If you think I am kidding you, then pray read Wikipedia by yourself. By the way, Shaykh Hamza studied at Qarawiyyin.

Furthermore, PhD actually originated from Islamic scholasticism (based around madrasah). It is when a scholar reaches the highest level of knowledge, he gets the license to teach, called ijazah al-tadrees. A Dr. was a Faqih or a Mujtahid. So PhD is a word derived from latin, Licentia docendi (license to teach), reflecting its origin ijazah at-tadrees. One can read George Makdisi’s The Rise of Colleges for further details.

Back to Educating Your Child in Modern Times, actually I was pretty let down by the lecture. I was expecting more on instructions and tips by the two maestros on actually how to “educate your child in modern times.” But the lecture is more about convincing to home-school your child, rather than telling you how to actually do it. Nevertheless, I still learned a lot from it.

"Taha, don't say bad words..."

Shaykh Hamza mentions some interesting points about traditional Islamic education system that has been lost in modern times. One of them is of course the passing down of knowledge/tradition directly from a teacher to a student, in contrast with today’s lecture-oriented system. Secondly, education is futile if it doesn’t make you human. So, Shaykh Hamza’s favorite quote on education is: "Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without loosing your temper or self-confident" (Robert Frost).

As for John Taylor Gatto, he is a big advocator of homeschooling. His lecture is mainly about, simply put, why school sucks... You aught to listen to this guy because he won the best teacher award when he decided to quit being a teacher. So he is not some random angry guy who dropped out of school shouting “school sucks…” Essentially John Taylor Gatto complaints about the American education system as “the dumbing down of us.”

So the verdict: I wasn’t convinced about homeschooling. I hoped Shaykh Hamza would have shared some tips on how he home-schools his children (I bet he has an awesome wife who is an awesome mom) but none of that is on the lecture. As for John Taylor Gatto, I get his part on “why school sucks”, but I don’t get how homeschooling actually works as he does not talk about it. So you know what, I think I’ll send my future-kids to school, insyaAllah. I think I don’t want to burden my future-wife with too many responsibilities. Taking care of little rascals is the hardest job on this planet.

Having said all that, I am still intrigued by the idea of homeschooling, it’s just that I am not convinced it will work on a practical basis. In his lecture, J.T. Gatto mentions about Francis S. Collins, the head of human genome project, who used to be home-schooled by his mom. Francis S. Collins is one of my heroes since I read his book The Language of God, and to know that he was home schooled by his mom with no curriculum at all is really cool.

As I ran out of sources for how homeschooling works, it dawned upon me to ask the most wonderful lady + wife + mom + (former) teacher + my best friend on this planet: My mom. So I told her about J.T. Gatto’s lecture, Francis S. Collins, and everything. My mom said home-schooling takes a lot of effort and these mat sallehs put in a lot of effort to make it work. “Owh…” I told her that in Sweden they don’t have kindergarten, school starts at 7, and now I can see her wisdom for not sending (or sending only for a short while) me and my siblings to kindergarten or pre-school.

By the way, my mom knows what it takes to do homeschooling because she home-schooled me until half-way through grade 1. Well, to be precise, I did go to kindergarten for around 5 months beforehand. Anyway, it was not that my mom had this crazy idea to home-school me and abandoned the formal-school system (I don’t want her to get locked-up in jail for such accusation), it was because we were living in Europe for a short while during that time; travelling, language differences, etc. made going to formal school an impractical thing to do. After that of course I did go to school, but I would say I learned my ABCs and 123s all from my mom. By the way, for a dyslexic ABC is like Quantum Mechanics, you know…


Talking about my mom, she has always been lenient with my little brother when he gave excuses for not wanting to go to school, and for a while I thought she was being a tad too lenient on that issue until recently. Well, we had to teman him rehat at canteen for about 8 months. But I always get that school is boring for him, and it is sort of a ‘dumbing down’ of his intelligent. Plus, he is a gentle, well-mannered kid, and kids at school are pretty rowdy. So when I heard the news that Shaykh Hamza’s son didn’t want to join the children’s program after seeing how the rowdy kids were playing around in the room, it was dejavu for me and the situation reminded me of my little brother.

So I guess my mom always gets that sometimes ‘school sucks.’ I told her about my ‘enlightenment’, she conformed my conjecture, but she pointed out that my little brother likes going to sekolah agama in the morning – he just finds sekolah kebangsaan too repetitive and the kids are too noisy. Indeed, isolating children in compound with total strangers (classroom), far from family, and data can be get about their obedience, concentration, etcetera is human’s greatest social experiment.


Jumping on, I would like to pay tribute to my former high school teacher who understands what education is all about. This teacher of mine hates childishness in his students because he thinks we should learn how to be grown ups. So main jentik-jentik pemadam is his pantang larang datuk nenek moyang. One day he spotted me playing airplane made of pencil (as its body) and a ruler (as its wing). I was called up to the front of the class to explain what was so interesting about playing with this child-like pencil airplane of mine. By the way, he is a stern disciplinary teacher famed for his strictness, so I was naturally scared at that time. Anyway, I went on in front of the class and explained to everyone about my imagination: Hydraulic-pressure-controlled flappable wings, which someday will be used in the airplane industry to increase fuel efficiency during take-offs.

I was dead sure I will be punished during that time as I just broke one of his pantang larang datuk nenek moyang. But it turned out that he let me off the hook just like that. He told me to keep on imagining and not to forget him if someday I become somebody. I was relieved… He recognized that I wasn’t being childish, but I was just being child-like. You may ask, what’s the difference between these two? Well, John Taylor Gatto ‘s definition of child-like is being inventive, innocent, and trusting; while childish is being bored, tantrum, and irresponsible. In other words, I played pencil airplane like a child, but I was/am a responsible adult. Get it? I hope so… Anyway, I went on to represent my school for water-rocket competition the next year, so I guess I repaid back his trust.


Last but not least, I have a couple of book recommendations to make: Monty Roberts’ The Man Who Listens to Horses and Randy Pausch’s The Last Lecture. Of course these two books are not about education per se, but they have special meanings to me. Simply put, my dad and horses are the two greatest influences in my life. In case you’re wondering, Randy Pausch reminds me so much about my dad – minus the cancer. Hint: His biggest brick wall was just five feet three. As for horses, they thought me to always be gentle. Isn’t that the most important lesson to learn in life? And I am still learning. I end my random rambling with John Taylor Gatto’s awesome quote: “The key to a rich inner life in a complex society is principally through tradition, family life, religion, exploration, reading, reading, reading, solitary reflection, and so on.”

Usrah on Usrah

Epilogue: This is only my note. Hence, the incoherence.

Usrah is family. Usrah is drived from Asir: Prisoner. You are bind to your parents, you can’t disown them.

Syaikh Hamza comment: Allah s.a.w. says in a hadith Qudsi, I am Ar-Rahman, I have created the Rahim (womb), and I have derived a name for it, from My Name (Ar-Rahman) - (hadith Qudsi) Woman is a man with a womb; men are at a disadvantage, they don’t have wombs! The womb is the source of Rahmah (Mercy) on this earth, men don’t have the source of Rahmah, the source of rahmah in world is the womb, and the thing closest to Allah is Rahmah.

When the Prophet says he loved women, what he’s saying is that he loved the qualities that women possessed. Women by their nature possess qualities that are beloved to Allah, while as men they have to learn those qualities and they are difficult to learn. One of them is Rahmah (mercy). Most women have Rahmah and the womb is the source of Rahmah according to the hadith. So women by nature have Rahmah while as a man it’s something that he has to really strive and work on to get.
(Syaikh Hamza Yusuf)

A few hadiths and verses from Qur’an that we should ponder about:-

“The best of you are those who are best to their wives.” (al-Tirmidhi)

“No Muslim should detest his Muslim wife. If he dislikes some of her qualities, he may find some other qualities more pleasing.”

In Khutbah during Haji Wada’, the Prophet s.a.w. said: [Hold fast to my advice with regard to women:] “Treat them with goodness/kindness.”
(al-Tirmidhi)

Note: The Prophet s.a.w. dedicated a substantial portion of his last sermon at the Hajjat al-Wada’ (Farewell pilgrimage) to explain and stress the importance of a husband’s obligations towards his wife.

“They are your garments and you are their garments” [23:187]

“Live with them on a footing of kindness and equity” [4:19]

I told a friend he needs to learn how to cook because someday he is going to get married. He gave me this stare, and said his future wife will do that. I asked him why does he expect so? He said it is the norm of our community that women do the chores of the house. I said to him, “Let’s say your future-wife is a professional too. Since she is a woman, more delicate than you are, wouldn’t it be unfair to expect her to do more than you do?”

Mufti Muhammad Taqi Uthmani has a nice advice: “It is not a legal (Shar’i) obligation upon a wife to cook the meals or clean the house. If a woman chooses not to do this, her husband cannot compel her to do so. However, apart from the legal injunctions Islam has given some moral instructions to both the husband and wife. They should realise that they are life companions who should not restrict themselves to the legal requirements alone, but should join hands to make mutual life as comfortable and harmonious as possible.”

So it is a misconception that it is ‘Islamic’ to force a wife to do all these. Plus, Aisyah r.a. related that the Prophet s.a.w. used to milk the goats, wash and sew his clothes.

“From Al-Aswad he reported: Aisyah r.a. was asked on the Prophet’s family life and what he did at home. She replied: The Prophet s.a.w always assisted his family members in doing household chores. When prayer time approaches, he will leave for prayer” (Sahih Bukhari).

On admonition and beating:-
“In Surah An-Nisa': 34-35, the word "beating" is used in the verse, but it does not mean "physical abuse". The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) explained it "dharban ghayra mubarrih" which means "a light tap that leaves no mark". He further said that face must be avoided. Some other scholars are of the view that it is no more than a light touch by siwak, or toothbrush!

Generally, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to discourage his followers from taking even this measure. He never hit any female, and he used to say that the best of men are those who do not hit their wives. In one hadith he expressed his extreme repulsion from this behavior and said, "How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then embrace (sleep with) her?” (Al-Bukhari, English Translation, vol. 8, Hadith 68, pp. 42-43)”

(Dr. Jamal Badawi & Dr. Muzammil Siddiqi)

Ibn Ashur said the intention behind syari’ah is to eliminate domestic violence. Why? Jahilli women were treated like property, chattel, except for the aristocratic. Saydinna Umar said, “we use to look women like beast, burden, until we saw the Qur’an elevating their status.”

“Nushuz is grouse disobedience; it’s not just about not making dinner. As mentioned earliar, it is not wajibat to make dinner, a qadi can’t impose it on women. Mukrah, is out of compulsion. Ta’a is desire and yearning. So it is to serve by desire, not compulsion. Khidmah is part of nature of woman.” (Summary of part of Shaikh Hamza Yusuf’s lecture)

A friend told me that he doesn’t want to marry early because he thinks at the moment he doesn’t have enough wisdom to teach his future children – a realization he got after reading Randy Pausch’s The Last Lecture. I was pretty struck by that idea.

Ibn Hajar wrote a book called Tarbiyat Aulad (nurturing children). The Prophet s.a.w. was gentle with children. He puts his hand on the head and said this is the best creation of Allah. We have to honour our children. Ibn Qayyim said, “Allah has enjoined upon us the right of children before he enjoined upon children the right of the parents.”

Someone came to Ali ibn Abi Talib and complained, “My child is in grouse disrespect of me.” Ali r.a. asked him, “How did you treat him when he was young?” He said, “I neglected him.” So Ali r.a. said, “What do you expect now?”

The Prophet s.a.w. never beats his wife or any children. But the tradition in most Muslim countries is to quickly use physical admonition towards children. The westeners don’t beat their children. And if education is the axon of a country’s economy, then small wonder that Muslim countries are so lagging behind. What’s wrong with us? We must break the cycle.

Knowledge: A Moral Responsibility in the Light of Revelation

In this universe, we human beings are the conscious elements that can understand other creations. The intellect is a trust (amanah) that is given to us, and according to the Quran, it is a weighty trust that even the heavens and earth refuse to bear the weight of it – but we took it[1]. Based on the intellect that is given to us, we can strive to prevent harms from happening, but we can also cause massive destruction to ourselves and other creations.

Given the importance of this faculty, the topic of knowledge is addressed at the very outset of revelation, when the Angel Gabriel appeared before Prophet Muhammad and ordered: “Read!” Prophet Muhammad replied “I am not of those who read” The same instruction and answer were repeated three times until the first revelation was completed: “Read in the name of your Lord [Rabb, “Educator”], Who created humankind out of a clinging clot. Read, and your Lord is most bountiful, He who taught by means of the pen, taught humankind that which they did not know[2].”

Prophet Muhammad is unlettered – he cannot read by his own faculties – thus God instructs him to read “in the name of your Lord”, directly drawing a link between faith in God and knowledge[3]. The early period of revelation stresses that knowledge has to be based on humility and moral responsibility. Only these two factors can constrain the unbounded human intellect from transgressing the limits and causing destruction on this planet.

The second revelation reaffirms Prophet Muhammad, the divine source of his inspiration: “Nun. By the pen and by that which they write. You [Muhammad] are not, by the grace of your Lord, possessed. Verily, yours is an unfailing reward. And surely you have sublime morals. You will soon see, and they will see, which of you is afflicted with madness[4].” The second revelation opens with the Arabic letter Nun, which no commentator – even the Prophet himself – knows the meaning of it or what it symbolizes. Thus, when God swears “by the pen” and confirms the necessity of the knowledge conveyed to human beings, He opens the verses with a letter that is incomprehensible to us, expressing the limits of human knowledge[5]. God is teaching us that the intellect must learn humility and recognizes the necessity of faith due to its own limits[6].

The verses also mention about the Prophet’s “sublime morals” that confirms him, a posteriori, that he is in the right and not possessed[7]. From his early days, Prophet Muhammad was known for his honesty and sincerity and he was given the title of al-Amin, “The Trusted One”[8]. Elsewhere in the Quran, it is mentioned that he is an “excellent exemplar” in good conduct, morality, and manners[9]. So when the Creator swears “by the pen” and mentions the Prophet’s “sublime morals”, He affirms that knowledge must tie in with moral dignity.

This is a great lesson that we should take note, as human history has shown: Acts of destruction had been committed due to the unbounded intellect. After the catastrophic event of Hiroshima bombing, Albert Einstein – the man who discovered the science behind it – made the remark, unless “by common struggle we are capable of new ways of thinking, mankind is doomed[10].” He recognizes that his greatest intellectual work is causing humankind’s doom, unless we awaken to the realization that moral responsibility must come hand-in-hand with the knowledge that we posses.

Then came the period of silence (fatra), which revelation was stopped for about six months. This period was a trying time for the Prophet who still doubts his position as the chosen one to receive revelation. However this period was essential to the development of the Prophet’s character, as God’s silence was a practical lesson for him to internalize the meaning of humility – not just verbally through revealed verses[11]. Finally the next revelation came to him: “By the morning light! By the night when it is still! Your Lord has not forsaken you, nor is He displeased. And verily the Hereafter will be better for you than the present. And soon will your Lord give you that which you will be well pleased[11].”

As can be seen, the early period of revelation was impregnated with lessons that bind knowledge with faith, humility, and moral responsibility. Humankind’s unrelenting thirst for knowledge has not changed over time, as can be seen by the advancements that we achieve in the modern world. But as the world becomes more and more secularized, we are losing faith, humility, and respect for the sacredness of other creations. In our bid for total materialistic gain, our scientific and technological advances have paid little respect to the environment. We should ponder: what have we done with the weighty trust (amanah) that is being given to us as the vicegerents on earth[12]? Today the effect of our unbounded intellect is the deep environmental crisis that we are in, but if we are not careful, tomorrow it may threaten our very own survival.

Footnote:
1 “Truly, We did offer Al-Amanah (the trust or moral responsibility or honesty and all the duties which Allah has ordained) to the heavens and the earth, and the mountains, but they declined to bear it and were afraid of it. But man bore it. Verily, he was unjust to himself, and ignorant (of its results)” (Qur’an 33:72)
2 Qur’an 96:1-5
3 Tariq Ramadan, In the Footsteps of the Prophet: Lessons from the Life of Muhammad. (NewYork, NY: Oxford University Press, 2007), 30
4 Qur’an 68: 1-6
5 Ramadan, 31
6 Ramadan, 31
7 Ramadan, 32
8 Seyyed Hossein Nasr, The Heart of Islam: Enduring Values for Humanity. (NewYork, NY: HarperOne, 2002), 29
9 Quran 32:21
10 Albert Einstein: Atomic Bomb http://www.ppu.org.uk/people/einstein.html
11 Ramadan, 33
12 “Your Lord said to the angels: ‘I will certainly establish a vicegerent [khalifah] on earth” (Qur’an 2:30)